Author: Clay Boykin

Deep Listening – Thich Nhat Hanh

John:  “Dan, you are not listening!” Dan:  “Yes I am! I know exactly what you said. That happened to me, too. Let me tell you all about it, and how you can fix it.” John:  “Dan… you are not listening…” *** Deep listening occurs when your mind is quiet. Your thoughts are flowing rather than crowding your mind with distractions, interpretations, judgments, conclusions or assumptions about the other person. Your mind is open, curious, interested — as though you were hearing this person for the first time. Deep listening applies not only to communication with another, but also to...

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Emotional Intelligence

What Is Emotional Intelligence? – Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include 3 skills: 1. Emotional awareness, including the ability to identify your own emotions and those of others; 2. The ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problems solving; 3. The ability to manage emotions, including the ability to regulate your own emotions, and the ability to cheer up or calm down another person.                            The UC Davis Executive Leadership Program is a transformative, interactive seminar series that...

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The Spirit Carriers

Perhaps this is a time to go within; reflect and remind ourselves of who we are, what our role is in the world and to hold ourselves to a higher purpose. (Two quotes and a video short I thought worth sharing) – “In my view of the world there are people whom I would call ‘Spirit Carriers’.  Servants who nurture the human spirit are Spirit Carriers. They serve to connect those who do the work of the world, or who are being prepared for that role, with vision from both past and contemporary prophets. Those servants find the resources...

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Joseph Campbell – The Hero’s Journey

“We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell Who is Joseph Campbell and why should we care? The Hero’s Journey – Metaphor Joseph John Campbell (March 26, 1904 – October 30, 1987) was an American mythologist, writer and lecturer, best known for his work in comparative mythology and comparative religion. His work is vast, covering many aspects of the human experience. His philosophy is often summarized by his phrase: “Follow your bliss.” – Wikipedia The Mythology of Star Wars with George Lucas and Bill Moyers...

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Ikigai – What Do You Wake Up In the Morning For?

What do you wake up in the morning for? What is your reason for being? How many times in your life have you asked yourself this question? Ikigai (生き甲斐, pronounced [ikiɡai]) is a Japanese concept meaning “a reason for being”. Everyone, according to the Japanese, has an ikigai. Finding it requires a deep and often lengthy search of self. Such a search is regarded as being very important, since it is believed that discovery of one’s ikigai brings satisfaction and meaning to life. Examples include work, hobbies and raising children. In the culture of Okinawa, ikigai is thought of as “a reason to get up in the morning”; that is,...

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