Shame and vulnerability researcher Dr. Brené Brown says shame is the intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love and belonging. It’s the most primitive human emotion we all feel—and the one no one wants to talk about. If left to its own devices, Dr. Brown says, shame can destroy lives. Watch as she reveals the three things shame requires to grow—and the one thing that can stop shame in its tracks.

Ever have a problem with being vulnerable with new people you meet thinking it will bring us closer? That shame story the we have is a big issue when it comes to who will show up and hold the sacred space that we need.  According to Brené Brown, there are 6 types of people you should not share your shame story with.  As a result of knowing this, you can choose carefully who you can count on for these difficult times.

If you’re caught in a shame spiral, Brené Brown says there are three things you can start doing today to break the cycle: Talk to yourself like you talk to someone you love; reach out to someone you trust; and tell your story.

Shame is an unspoken epidemic, the secret behind many forms of broken behavior. Brené Brown, whose talk on vulnerability became a viral hit, explores what can happen when people confront their shame head-on. Her own humor, humanity and vulnerability shine through every word.